Children's full of suprizes and secrets

Parents think they really know their children life after they reached adolescent years. Three out of four of our children really surprised me with many surprises. Secrets that were revealed unexpectedly and from the expression from my three oldest children when some of their secrets came out from their friends or neighbors, shocked me to unbelief. If parents think for one moment they know everything and anything about their children, they need to reconsider that way of thinking. My husband and I kept a close eye on all four of our children and set very st-rick rules for our children to follow. We did not let them go to sleep overs if we didn't meet the friends parents first. It takes one slip up giving children lead way breaking a rule. We wanted our children feel safe and secure and prepare them when they walk out to the world to discover new life for them. We trusted our children but what we could not trust is the world they have to step into every day of their live.

Granted some rules are meant to be broken. I agree but be careful what rule they break. For instant, after working a twelve hour shift at a nursing home I worked for when I arrived home I was exhausted, tired and drained so all I wanted to do was take a nap. My children at this time were in their late teens so they could basically take care of their needs if they were hungry or what not. Our middle daughter waited to I was total sound to sleep to ask me a question which If I was awake and alert would of said No to her question. "Mom, she asks; can I sleep over my friends tonight? I was in a deep sleep. I said yes not aware she even asked me a question. The next morning I awaken, I asked my younger daughter where was her sister? "Mom. she is at her friends home, she waited until you were asleep and out of it to ask; if she could sleep over. A couple hours later, my husband came downstairs and walked in the living room and also asked the same question. After youngest daughter and I answered the question, the father instinct came in. She is not at her friends home Mother. "What do you pops? I just know she is not there, so where do you think she would be? At a party. Husband said. I asked my youngest daughter if she knew where this friend of her sister's live. "Oh mom, I don't want to be a snitch or a tattle tale. "Well darling, you have no choice to not to tell us because if you don't tell us than you give us no choice but to ground you also. Eventually she spilled the beans.

My husband's; father's instinct was correct the middle daughter was sure enough at a college all boys party. I was furious that she lied to us and betrayed us. Went to the college boys home and caught my middle daughter red handed right there on the phone talking to her friend on the other end. I told her get into the car and we'll talk about this when we get home. With my daughter being a minor, I told the the one young man that if I found out that he gave my daughter alcohol or touched her in anyway I will press charges against all of them. Daughter was consider a minor and the young men was over twenty + years. On our way home I gave my daughter the silent treatment. I wanted her know I was disappointment in her because the fact she lied to me and I could not trust her. I also wanted her to know although she made this mistake I love her unconditionally. We grounded her for two months because we felt it fit the wrong choice she made.

When children are small. they do step on your toes but when they get into those rebellion years which are teen years is when they start discovering new things around them and fall into temptation and peer pressure. The hardest decision parents makes is tough love. Of course we don't want to see our children hurt or in pain but they are not robots so we want them to live and discover their own talents and new friends but when they cross the line or break a rule they also need to know there are consequences of the actions and choices they made. Just like the real world, reality...if they were working at a job and one day just decided to walk out of the job early or kept showing up work late...the owner or who was in charge would fire them. So they need to learn and it is parents to teach them with tough love and guidance. I thought knew everything about my children and kept both eyes on them all but I didn't, our children had a few of surprises on their own. We love our children no matter what mistakes they make but as a parent and our children knows we will support them in all they do but they need to know if they choose to live an unmoral and corrupt live than there are consequences.